Ah, the cycle of abuse never truly ends, does it?
Once, I was a robust and cheerful girl—full of life and laughter. Now, at 62, I feel like a faded, worn-out version of the person I used to be.
I’m a single mother now. For over 40 years, I was married to my childhood sweetheart. Today, my daughter and son have grown up, found their partners, and have children of their own. I can only hope they navigate life with joy and fulfillment alongside their families.
I’ve learned that all marriages face their challenges; it’s how you confront those challenges that defines the relationship. Unfortunately, I learned this lesson the hard way. In my marriage, I was victimized, shamed, and often violated—day in and day out.
For the longest time, I considered this treatment normal because my mother and most of the married women in my family endured the same fate. I simply didn’t know any better. Had I understood that this wasn’t how love was supposed to feel, perhaps I would have handled my husband very differently, and maybe I would have found a spark of self-respect within myself.
Friends and family tried tirelessly to reason with me. I knew they meant well, but I simply lacked the strength to walk away from it all. My story isn’t unique; it's one shared by many disadvantaged women like myself—those of us who never had the privilege of a solid education. We struggled to carve out our own paths, often enduring hardships instead of finding the strength to escape.
I bore it all for the sake of my children, firmly believing they deserved a better future. Today, I am proud that they are independent and earning their own living.
It took me thirty long years to finally muster the courage to leave. All the while, he kept a woman on the side, and as soon as I was out of the picture, he married her.
He spent those years denying his infidelities, even though there were countless times I caught him red-handed and threw him out of our home—only to take him back again.
I know I may sound like a pathetic woman, and if I'm honest, I was—but not anymore.
I’m well aware that many people I know laughed at my suffering, and I want them to understand that I simply wasn’t brave or strong enough back then.
Yet here I am, in my 60s, grateful for my freedom—a feeling that is infinitely liberating.
As for me, I'm still in recovery, learning to trust again in a world that once seemed so filled with betrayal.
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Domestic violence is a critical issue that affects communities across the globe, including the Maldives. It’s important to shine a light on this hidden problem and discuss ways to support victims and prevent further abuse. Here’s a brief overview to help understand and tackle domestic violence in the Maldives.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence includes any form of violence or abuse by one person against another within a household or family. It can be physical, emotional, sexual, or financial abuse. It's not just a personal issue but a matter of public concern that affects the well-being of individuals and communities.
Recognizing the Signs
Recognizing the signs of domestic violence can save lives. Some warning signs include unexplained injuries, sudden changes in behavior, fear of a partner, and financial control issues. If you or someone you know might be experiencing these signs, it’s crucial to seek help.
Legal Protections in the Maldives
The Maldives has laws in place to protect individuals from domestic violence. The Family Protection Act is specifically designed to combat domestic violence and offer protection to victims. It’s important for everyone to be aware of their legal rights and the protections available under this act.
Seeking Help and Support
For anyone facing domestic violence, know that help is available. Various organizations in the Maldives provide support, counseling, and legal advice for victims. Reaching out for help is a brave and vital step toward safety and recovery.
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Police: If you are in immediate danger, calling the police is a critical first step. They can provide protection and guide you through the process of filing a report.
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Support Services: Look for local NGOs and support groups offering services for victims of domestic violence. These organizations can provide confidential advice, counseling, and shelter if needed.
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Legal Assistance: Legal services can assist with protective orders and guide you through the legal process to ensure your safety and rights are protected.
Supporting Victims
If you know someone who might be experiencing domestic violence, offering your support can make a significant difference. Listen without judgment, provide emotional support, and encourage them to seek professional help. Remember, the decision to seek help must come from the victim; offer your support but respect their choices and timing.
Working Towards Prevention
Prevention is key to ending domestic violence. This involves education, raising awareness, and promoting respectful relationships from a young age. Community programs, schools, and media can all play a role in creating a culture that does not tolerate violence.
Domestic violence is a challenging issue but addressing it openly and offering support to those affected can bring about change. Remember, no one should suffer in silence, and together, we can work towards a safer, more respectful society in the Maldives.
The Ministry of Gender and Family and Maldives Police Service in partnership with UNICEF Maldives has launched the “1412” toll-free, call centre and the “Ahan” mobile application to report cases of Domestic Violence
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Asma’s story is incredibly moving and inspiring. Thank you for sharing her journey and shedding light on resilience in marriage.